Blog Archives

Do we know how to pray?


It’s been a while since I posted last; honestly I have not had anything to write about. Things have been going good nothing major has happened. I went to church on Sunday and the pastor spoke of praying, and that many people do not know how to pray, I must admit I was never sure whether or not I was praying properly, it seemed that some of my prayers were being answered so I must be doing something right I suppose, but hey as I sat and listened to his sermon I realised even though my prayers were being answered, they generally revolved around me, it was always “God please help me with” or “God I really need an answer on this” but the bible tells you how to pray.

 

So I found this on the internet and it pretty much sums up what the pastor said on Sunday and it definitely give a good indication on how we should pray.  My reference for this post comes from http://www.allaboutprayer.org/lords-prayer.htm

 

 

Lord’s Prayer – A Devotion Based on Christ’s Model in Matthew 6

The Lord’s Prayer…

 

“Our Father in heaven” — We need to always acknowledge first and foremost who we are talking to. He (God) is our heavenly Father. We address Him with respect just as we should address our earthly father with respect. He is the only true God who created all things in this universe, including us. He loves us and we need to show our love for Him.

 

“Hallowed be your name” — We must see Him as being holy, sanctified, consecrated; worthy of praise, honour and glory!

 

“Your kingdom come” – We acknowledge His coming kingdom. We pray that Christ will soon return and establish His earthly kingdom where we will reign with Him for eternity.

 

“Your will be done on earth as it is in heaven” — We need to be praying for His will to be done in our lives, so that we might bring glory to Him here on earth as He is also glorified in heaven. We need to do things His way, instead of selfishly doing our own things to satisfy our own desires.

 

“Give us today our daily bread” — We should ask our Father each day to provide for our needs, just as He promised in His Holy Word. His Word says that we don’t have, because we don’t ask. Of course, we must first know God through His Son, our personal Lord and Saviour. If we don’t know Christ, God won’t acknowledge this request for daily provision.

 

“Forgive us our debts (or transgressions) as we also have forgiven our debtors (transgressors)” — This speaks about forgiveness among our associates, neighbours, friends, family and loved ones. Any and all persons in our lives that we come in contact with in social or business situations are included as well. If we can’t forgive others, how can we expect our heavenly Father to forgive us?

 

“Lead us not into temptation” — We need to ask our heavenly Father to help us recognize every evil thing, every temptation before us. We need help to stay focused on our Father and see the evil that we might fall into, for what it is really is, a trap set by Satan to bring us down to his level.

 

“But deliver us from the evil one” — Help us, dear Father, to steer clear of that liar and deceiver. Let us see clearly the path that you want each of us to walk. By the power of the Holy Spirit that dwells within us, may we never stray from your will and way…

 

Lord’s Prayer – A Glorious Ending

Some commentators believe that the end of the Lord’s Prayer – “For thine is the kingdom, and the power, and the glory forever” – was added by someone other than the original writer. Whether that’s true or not, this last phrase simply emphasizes more praise and glory to God the Father – so it’s absolutely biblical… a glorious ending to a model prayer to God!

Time For Change


Ok so it’s a New Year and along with the New Year I have decided to make certain changes in my life. Today has been a strange day, while it should have been a good day for me it was slightly off… all the things that have been bothering me the past few months or so just flooded to the surface I don’t know if it was just because it’s a new year or because I am now older and things need to change I don’t know, and NO I am not having a midlife crisis lol im NOT THAT OLD HA HA

 For those that know me, know that I find it extremely difficult to say NO, if someone asks for help whatever it may be I always seem to say yes, and everyone seems to come to me, because they know I am sure to help, while that is my aim to help others in need, now this is where I struggle with this matter, we are supposed to help people in need, but must we still help when the help borders on use and abuse, go to Bernadette she WILL DEFINATELY help you…? Do I have the right to say no then? You see I have this problem with certain people, and while they help me a lot as well I feel like I am being taken advantage of because they have a certain attitude of you owe me so you must do this for me… keep mentioning I did this and this and that for you so you must help me with this favour. Not taking into consideration how many little favours I do which all add up, sometimes more often than not I have to cancel my plans and drop everything because generally these favours are required of me at the last minute. 

Then there is the issue of my Mother, while my mother herself is not the issue, the issue involves her. You see I look after my mother, and I do it with the greatest of pleasure, although sometimes it is a struggle, as I do not earn a lot of money. While my brother helps me where he can, my sister does very little, please do not get me wrong here, I am not trying to name and shame anyone nor am I purposely airing our dirty laundry as they say but this has bothered me for some time and I do not know how to handle it. I have approached my sister about this before but have had no success, I am not asking for hand out just merely for her to take some responsibility as well. While I understand her reason for not doing more, I just feel that it’s a bit unfair that I am left to do it by myself. She believes that my mother lived her life made her mistakes and why must she suffer for it ok I understand SOME of her reasoning but not all of it. It really is a struggle for me honestly my brother has helped me so much even though he himself is struggling, whereas my sister has no financial problems at the moment. That is what bothers me the most, is that while she can help she does not, and I must admit it is causing a bit of resentment. I do not want to start 2012 off like this but I do not know quite how to deal with this issue without making the problem worse, the last thing I want is to cause a rift between my sister and I, as despite our issues I love her very much and do not want to have a strained relationship. (So here is where the peacemaker / people pleaser in me comes out and says well then this is best left unsaid and buried under the carpet)

I was sitting at my laptop and thinking if the things that needed to change and realised that the 2 problems above are 2 BIG issues in my life and I feel it is holding me back, while another issue is financial, it really is a struggle every month so tonight I decided to update my CV (resume) and apply for other jobs, jobs that paid more than what I was earning. I applied for one position and suddenly I felt this uneasiness come over me, it’s like when people say trust your gut, it was that kind of feeling that something was just not right, I chatted to my friend about it, he told me that I should listen and not look for another Job right now, God is clearly trying to tell me that the time is not right. Which led me to the question WHY? Why is the time not right, why have I been put in these situations, etc etc. My friend then told me that everything happens for a reason, God has a bigger plan for me and that me wanting to find another Job is not part of his plan right now. My friend is right; however it is still not easy. I have prayed about my financial situation before and things just do not seem to change, while I trust God and his plan, I just wonder sometimes wonder when things will change. While here it may seem to you that I have no faith that things will change, I prayed about it and continue to thank God for it. Maybe I am not doing it right I have no clue.

I will continue to pray and trust God and His timing, as well as some clarity on why finding another Job that will pay more not the right thing for me.

While some of you might think that I am complaining I really am not, this is something that has really been bothering me and I needed to get it out somehow, bottling it up is just making it worse.

So… sorry to those that have read this and did not enjoy reading it but this blog is after all my Journey and the struggles I face are part of the same Journey.

If anyone is facing a similar situation please feel free to leave a comment. I would love to know how others deal with these things.

 God Bless all.

Kreativ Blogger Award


I humbly accept and with heartfelt thanks to Michele –  By His Grace for nominating me for this beautiful award.  It is truly an honor.

Blogging for me had been a huge role player in my walk with Jesus, it has kept me focused and for that I am grateful, I a truly blessed to have received this award and that my blog makes an impact. For this award I will say 10 things you don’t know about me, after which, I will mention 6 others worthy of receiving this award:

1) I am so madly in love with Jesus I cant explain the feeling

2)  I have a male cat called tinkerbelle( he is y baby thats where the blog name came from) and i have a female cat named archiem we call her archibald – LOL if you really want to know why ask!!!

3)  I have a budgie called snoflake with whom tinkerbelle is the best of friends they they touch beak to nose every morning to say hello almost like they kissing

4)  I go by a few nick names: tweedeldee, pinky and Marie Biscuit5)  I never really knew my biological father and only met him once when I was 5 years old.  I remember him lying to me and my brother.

6)  When i was little i had this pink elephant plush toy called moemfie (LOL) that i took with me everywhere like a security blanket, until one day i left it on the train, i have been searching my whole life for another pink elephant but alas have not been able to find one

7)  It is my birthday in a few weeks YAY… cant wait….

8)  I tend to laugh REALLY loud soetimes and once i have the giggles it takes a LOT to get me to stop i can laught about something for hours

9)  I once was addicted to farmville on facebook where i would set my alarm in the middle of the night to water my crops, crazy I KNOW, but i had a DARN good looking farm

10) I am a qualified massage therapist

The 6 worthy of honor

http://danabrux.com/

http://christianinamerica.wordpress.com/

http://livingwithrealjoy.wordpress.com/

http://tomraines.wordpress.com/

http://encouragementforwomen.wordpress.com/

http://allthingsbeautifull.wordpress.com/

 

I hope you enjoy these blogs as much as I have.  They have been a blessing to me and they all share the massive love for God that I have.    Thanks again to Michele  and many blessings to everyone!

Youcef Nadarkhani – Iranian Pastor imprisioned for standing up for Jesus(PLEASE REBLOG)


I read an article a few minutes ago, about an Iranian Pastor who has been in prison for standing his ground in what he believes, this post has rattled me like you cannot believe, I sit here and it feels like my heart has been ripped out as if it were someone in my family that this has happened to. I tried to reblog the post but for some reason it did not work, in this post was a link I went to read the story of this Pastor, and have just copied and pasted it as it was stated there. I will also provide you with a few more links of other sites regarding to this Pastor.

He has been sentenced to death and yet he still stands strong for Jesus, how many of us have been put in such a situation where you either renounce your faith and belief in the Almighty God or you die, not many I am sure, it ust be very hard for him, but I admire his commitment. I pray that God make a way for him and that he be released and to continue spreading the word of God.

Full Story of Youcef Nadarkhani

We first reported the arrest of pastor Youcef in the fall of 2009. If you’d like to assist us in our work for the persecuted church you can do so here.

Here is a brief history of Youcef Nadarkhani, leading up to his current situation.

**UPDATE** – Youcef is still under the death sentence for apostasy. In June the Supreme Court upheld the death sentence as it is based upon fatwas of the Supreme Leader. On September 25-28 hearings were held by the Gilan provincial court to determine if he was a Muslim. On the 26th they determined that Youcef was a Muslim because his parents were when he was born. All witnesses stated that he did not practice Islam, yet the court inexplicably determined he was a national apostate. At each hearing he was commanded to recant and each time he refused. Two hearings were held after the verbal determination was made by the judges. There is a serious concern that he could be executed at any time because according to Sharia Law you are to be given three days to recant if you are an apostate. He was commanded to recant three straight days after the judges made their determination. The attorney’s for pastor Youcef are stating that, by law, the written verdict must be delivered within seven days.  To this date the written verdict for Pastor Youcef has not been delivered. The court has promised another delay for the express purpose to give him more time to recant and return to Islam. 

Youcef is 34 years old and is from Rasht, in the Gilan province of Iran. For the past ten years he has been a pastor in a network of house churches. He was previously imprisoned in December of 2006, the charges being apostasy (leaving Islam for Christianity)  and evangelism (spreading the message of the Gospel of Jesus Christ), but was released two weeks later.

He is married and has two sons, Daniel age 9 and Yoel age 7. They were attending a local school when the government decidediran map 1 300x275 Full Story of Youcef Nadarkhani that all children should be taught about Islam, including those from Christian families. Youcef went to the school and protested this based on the Iranian constitution, which allows for freedom to practice religion. As a result, the secret police called him before the political tribunal in Rasht, Iran on October 12, 2009. At that time he was arrested, charged for protesting, and has been in prison in Lakan (which is seven miles south of Rasht) ever since. Later the charges changed to apostasy and evangelism to Muslims.

Youcef is imprisoned in the Lakan prison, a city close to Rasht. Over the time of his incarceration he has mostly has had access to an attorney, and has been allowed visits from his wife, children, and friends. However, for the first month in prison and for several months around the time of his trial he was in solitary confinement. They have used various methods to try to convert him back to Islam, including giving him pills, apparently in an attempt to claim that he was insane.

Because Youcef’s faith remained strong, they decided to arrest his wife in order to place more pressure on him. On June 18th, 2010 Fatemah Pasindedih was arrested, charged with apostasy and placed in prison in Lakan. During this time their boys went to live with a relative. Both Youcef and his wife Fatemah were threatened by authorities that their children would be taken away and given to a Muslim family. Youcef was not swayed to turn back to Islam, so his wife was put on trial without an attorney, and sentenced to life in prison. An attorney was later hired and the sentence appealed. The sentence and conviction were overturned and she was released.

On September 21 and 22, 2010, Youcef was put on trial, and verbally given the sentence of death. A written verdict was delayed and then delivered, on November 13, 2010, by the 1st Court of the Revolutionary Tribunal. He is to be executed by hanging for the crime of apostasy. Twenty days are allowed to appeal the sentence with the Supreme Court of Iran.

On December 5, 2010 the verdict was appealed to the Supreme Court, but on June 28, 2011 we learned that the Supreme Court reached a decision. The third chamber of the Supreme Court in Qom upheld his conviction for apostasy and the death sentence. They have commanded the local court to re-examine whether or not he was a practicing Muslim from ages 15 to 19. If it is determined he was a practicing Muslim he will be given another chance to recant and then he will be executed.

The re-examination of his case was held September 25th through 28th. From the very beginning it was demanded he recant. Even before the case was heard or the trial completed. During one hearing he was told to recant and he responded, “You ask me to recant. Recant means to return. What do you wish me to return to? The blasphemy that I was in before Christ?” The judges responded, “To the religion of your ancestors, Islam.” Youcef replied, “I cannot.” The Muslim attorney that is working to help him had this to say about his client, ”Physically he looks weak but emotionally his belief in Christ is keeping his spirits high.”

Based upon Islamic Sharia Law an apostate is to be given three days to recant. There is a very real concern that he could be executed at any time. The attorney’s suggest that first a written verdict will be delivered, by law within a week, and secondly they will have the opportunity to appeal the verdict.

Nonetheless, there are no assurances that he will not be executed. It could happen at any time. This is the way that the Iranian government operates with executions. They do not give advance notice and it is done in secret.

We cannot wait another moment, we have to contact our elected officials. We need to fast and pray for his deliverance. Contact the international news media, international human rights organizations and the government. Go to http://presenttruthmn.com/persecuted-christians/ to get more details on how to contact someone.

http://www.christianpost.com/news/iran-pastor-yousef-nadarkhani-likely-to-remain-in-jail-another-year-65003/

http://www.ibtimes.com/articles/228459/20111010/youcef-nadarkhani.htm

http://changchanglu.wordpress.com/2011/10/03/a-warrior-for-god-youcef-nadarkhani/

My heart goes out to this man, if I could get on a plane right now and help him I would but I cannot, there is nothing in this world that is more powerful than PRAYER, Please friends lets all pray for this man.

Blazing in battle


We might go into battle blind but God will be our eyes

Hello Bloggers,

Up until a few hours ago, I had no clue what I would write about today, but God has a way of revealing to you exactly what is needed and when, I have decided that every thought that makes me feel at peace and good is from God, so I will obey him and write this post.

Today I will write about Christians dealing with conflict and my friend and colleague, for the sake of anonymity I will call him Frikkie (A little humour for you my friendJ)  

I have mentioned Frikkie in a few blog posts; he was one of the people that have been instrumental in me giving my life back to the Lord.

Before I go any further I would like to provide you with some scriptures so that you can have a better understanding of this post.

Matthew 18:15 – “If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault, between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained your brother.

 

Colossians 3:13 – Bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive.

 

My friend is dealing with conflict in the work place, he is victimised by one person and unfortunately this person is in a higher management position, had I been in his shoes, I do not think that I would have been as calm and collected as he is. I take my hat off to him and I would often wonder how he actually manages to stay so calm. You see Frikkie is a born again Christian and he has Jesus on his side.

I look at him and have the utmost respect for him, as he is a true example of what it really is to be a Christian and to be more Christ like in his everyday life.

I felt the need to pray for him last night, and at that time I was not sure what for, I thought perhaps it was for his safety but it wasn’t.  I sat here and thought to myself, about the way he is being treated, if you knew him as a person you would agree with me that how he has been treated is WRONG. Plain and simple, he goes out of his way to help others, he never has a bad word to say about anyone, he does not swear, does not speak to people disrespectfully even though this is how he is treated on a daily basis. He has respect for anyone and everyone that crosses his path, and makes people feel good. Everyone in our office considers him to be one of the friendliest people around, and yet there is that one person that does everything to make his life a living hell, now that is where a light suddenly came on in my head, or should I rather say at that time God revealed something to me.

He reminded me of something I said on one of my previous posts, that being  a Christian is NOT easy, in fact it is a very tough road to travel, because once you surrender to Jesus, satan will do EVERYTHING he can to make you stumble and fall, in your walk with Jesus.  So in this case where my friend is concerned Satan is using this one person to attack him, so it’s not the actual person, the driving force here is satan, once we are able to realise that the battle if halfway won, because then we can call in the BIG SHOT, the one who is more powerful than satan can EVER dream of being, we need to let God take the wheel in our fight with satan, once we allow him to direct our next step there is no way that satan will have victory.

Being a Christian is a true test of one’s faith in Jesus, because it is when you become a Christian that the battle begins. This is where the most important decision lies in our lives. Who do we trust and rely on?

I am still busy reading the book walking in your own shoes by Robert H. Schuller, and I am currently on the last chapter but last night he made a very good analogy on faith and trusting the Lord in times of need.

He used a blind girl as an example; she is standing on a windowsill of a top floor of a burning building, she cannot see a thing, she hears the fire fighters telling to her that she can jump there is a net that will catch her, and yet she does not jump, she is paralyzed with fear at the thought of Jumping because she cannot see the net. She struggles to trust the fire fighters enough to save her life, but then suddenly her father speaks to her and tells her to Jump that he is there and everything will be ok.  Then suddenly her whole perspective changes and she jumps, although she cannot see the net, why did she jump? … Because she had faith in her father and trusted him enough to believe him when he said everything will be ok.

Now we can relate to that blind girl as us not being sure of the safety net of Jesus, but then he speaks to us through his word and says trust me it will be ok you will be safe.

I will go back to my point, that when you become a Christian, you begin a battle, a battle with satan, we are blind, there is a safety net called Jesus, and he is telling us that it is ok to Jump he is there.

1 Samuel 17:47 – Then all this assembly shall know that the Lord does not save with sword and spear; for the battle is the Lord’s, and He will give you into our hands.

 

2 Timothy 2:1-4 – You therefore, my son, be strong in the grace that is in Christ Jesus. And the things that you have heard from me among many witnesses, commit these to faithful men who will be able to teach others also. You therefore must endure hardship as a good soldier of Jesus Christ. No one engaged in warfare entangles himself with the affairs of this life, that he may please him who enlisted him as a soldier.

 

2 Corinthians 10:3-5 – For though we walk in the flesh, we do not war according to the flesh For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal but mighty in God for pulling down strongholds, casting down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ.

 

Ephesians 6:10-20 – Finally, my brethren, be strong in the Lord and in the power of His might. Put on the whole armour of God that you may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil. For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this age, against spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places. Therefore take up the whole armour of God, that you may be able to withstand pin the evil day, and having done all, to stand. Stand therefore, having girded your waist with truth, having put on the breastplate of righteousness, and having shod your feet with the preparation of the gospel of peace; above all, taking the shield of faith with which you will be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked one. And take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God; praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, being watchful to this end with all perseverance and supplication for all the saints and for me, that utterance may be given to me, that I may open my mouth boldly to make known the mystery of the gospel, for which I am an ambassador in chains; that in it I may speak boldly, as I ought to.

 

I thank the lord for giving me the insight to do this post today and I dedicate this post and every other post to my Almighty God, in him I have found my strength to go into battle for him.

I also want to dedicate this to my friend, you are stronger than what you think, you are a mighty warrior for Jesus, and I have the utmost respect for you in the way you have handled this situation, this world needs more people like you in it. I pray that this battle you are now fighting will be one that will make you stronger and more determined to fight for what is right. I know God will be with you every step of the way; he will carry you and give you the tools you need to overcome this obstacle. I will keep you in my prayers and thoughts. May God Bless you abundantly, in your Journey with him.

For anyone reading this all I ask of you is that you please lift my friend up in prayer. He has some very difficult choices to make and he might not see what’s on the other side of the mountain but with prayer and faith he will know what the right move will be as God will reveal it to him.

May you all have a blessed day.

Coincidence or God


Don’t overlook the small things,

I read 2 blogs last night that touched on the little things that God does for  us that we overlook or merely say it was a coincidence, well I used to always think it was a coincidence, but the other day I never thought of it as a coincidence. While this might really sound like a coincidence to the unbelievers and even to some believers, I think it’s one of those many little things that God has done to show us he is there.

 

Some of you might find this funny and honestly so do it so here goes, I am looking after this house while the owners are away, huge house and these people have the best of everything, even the STOVE… yes they have a really cool stove, also one that I have never used before, I am so used to all the old fashioned stoves with the nobs that you turn, but this one did not have any nobs, you had to touch it to put it on etc., so I decided to cook dinner and had chopped onions had the pot on the stove with oil and went to put it on… only I could not get it to switch on, I struggled for almost half an hour to get the stove to work, when suddenly this little thought popped into my head “ HELLO IM HERE WHY DON’T YOU ASK ME FOR HELP” So I did I said a little prayer and asked God to help me figure out the stove, and immediately the stove started working, and it made me think, normally I would have overlooked that but this time I didn’t, I saw that as what it was a little reminder from God that he is real and he is here…

 

Another instance is last week, I had been reading the bible, and for the past few weeks I have been up really late reading and up very early so I decided I would take a little nap I said to myself just for an hour or so, so that I could continue reading his word and in turn strengthen my relationship, but just in case I fell asleep and didn’t wake up I prayed and asked the Lord to wake me up in exactly one hour it was still early I remember checking my time and it was 6:28pm when I went to lie down, at 7:30 pm I woke up, then I laid there for a minute or 2 and decided I was still feeling tired and would just lay there for a while, that did not happen, the minute I started to doze off it was like someone screamed in my ear WAKE UP, now if that is not proof enough that God listens and answers prayers then I don’t know, so don’t always look for the big things to confirm the existence of God, it is the small things that you overlook that confirms it.

 

Romans 8:28 – “And we know that God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose.” – While this does not say anything about coincidence does it not give you that indication that those little things aren’t just mere Coincidence?

 

I found this on the net, now you tell me does this story not explain everything I have just been trying to say??

 

There was a man sitting on the roof of his house to avoid the rising floodwaters. A boat passes by, and the navigator says “We’re here to help! Grab hold of the rope!”

 

The man says “No, thanks. God will save me.”

 

An hour later, a helicopter flies over the house. The pilot says “I’m going to let down the ladder! Climb aboard!”

 

The man says “No thanks. God will save me.”

 

Two hours later, the man ends up in heaven. He says “God, I believed in You! How come you didn’t save me?”

 

God said, “I sent you a boat and a helicopter. What more do you want?”

 

 

I never quite knew what to call those “little” occurrences or coincidences but the one blog I read yesterday she had called it a GOD WINK, which is quite a nice term for it, what do you call them? I would like to know what others call it.

Christians dealing with Anger


I have seen this scripture before but never have I looked at it and applied it to my own life. I am ashamed to say but today this scripture applies to me.

 

 A fool shows his annoyance at once, but a prudent man overlooks an insult (Proverbs 12:16). 

 

I had an argument with a co worker today, he said something that made me angry, when I get angry I either shake like a leaf or I start to cry, today was both. I got mad and snapped back at this person. Normally this would not bother me; I mean I have had arguments before with many people. We both end up saying things and eventually we get over it at some point or another. Today was different though, it bothered me so much that it was all I could think about all the way home, when I got home the first thing I did was went down on my knees by my bed like we used to do when we were kids and prayed. I mean literally went on my knees, I prayed for forgiveness and letting myself get so angry when all this time I have been working towards the Goal, and that is to become what God wants me to be, I am certain that the person that retaliated today is not the person that God intended me to be.

 

Obviously I cannot take anything back, I have apologised but to try and fix this I need to know what the bible says about it, I am aware that there are many scriptures related to anger, I just never took the time to find out what they were, so let’s look at it together

 

Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing (Proverbs 12:18)

 

I know that some if not all of y words towards my colleague were reckless, why? Because I never took a minute to think about what I was about to say I just retaliated immediately. I do that often it is something I need to work on, not thinking before I speak. While the things he said to me were hurtful I am almost certain the things I said to him were just as hurtful, I don’t know what his reason was but what was mine, what reason did I have to go off the way I did, what is my excuse?…. THERE IS NO EXCUSE I’m afraid.

 

A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger (Proverbs 15:1)

 

Instead of saying something like “sorry you feel that way” I fought back. All my life that’s has been my coping mechanism, is to fight back, to retaliate. It clearly is the completely wrong way in which to handle the situation, but it was the only way I knew how, and while I now know better I still struggle to control what comes out my mouth and the reactions I may give.

 

A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger (Proverbs 15:1)

 

This Scripture is one that should be locked away somewhere in your memory, to be able to refer back to it in times like this when you feel anger, I think if I have read this scripture 5 times in my entire life it is a lot, had I known this scripture better and kept it in my memory ,maybe today would have ended differently

 

It is to a man’s honour to avoid strife, but every fool is quick to quarrel (Proverbs 20:3)

 

I should have been big enough to avoid this confrontation, but instead I fought back instantly.

 

You have heard that it was said to the people long ago, “Do not murder, and anyone who murders will be subject to judgment.” But I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment … first go and be reconciled to your brother; then come and offer your gift (Matthew 5:21-24)

 

If I want to follow in the footsteps of Jesus, I HAVE to learn to control my anger, and I need to learn to forgive for without that I am headed nowhere.

 

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs (1 Corinthians 13:4-5)

 

This one is another scripture that I feel should be memorised, and referred to in times of need.

 

Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, with whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you (Ephesians 4:29-32).

 

So here is what I plan to do, every day I will read the above scripture, and while I am only human, and might still falter, I have at least acknowledged the error in my ways, that is the first step. I prayed and asked God to help me, because this is something that I cannot do in my own strength. I have every faith that with time, I will with God’s help learn to control this and hopefully stop doing it all together

 

 

I found this poem on the internet and for me it pretty much sums up the effect of anger

 

Emotional Explosions…

 

Anger, a spark, within all of us.

There, anger is lurking, waiting to

Ignite the dynamite that will

Cause an explosion of words,

And actions, that cannot be taken back.

 

Anger, is the roadblock, to anything

And everything, worthwhile in life.

 

Anger, seemingly an involuntary reaction,

to rejection of thought or action.

 

Anger, an interpretation, of unacceptable behaviour.

 

Anger, almost always followed by regret.

 

Anger, an emotion. Whose children are,

Anxiety, fear, frustration, animosity, passion,

outrage and a thousands of other, emotionally

Affecting articulations.

 

Anger, the replacement of reason.

 

What is the enemy of anger? The

Enemy of anger, is, patience, understanding

And love.

 

Anger, the emotion, the world would be

Far better off, without.

 

Anger and bitterness toward anything or anyone, is so destructive for our lives and we need to do everything we can to avoid it. I would love to hear from all of you how you deal with anger. Always good when you are trying to get another person’s perspective on situations like these

 

Walking in your own shoes.


Your own shoes will be the perfect fit

Your own shoes will be the perfect fit

I have recently started reading a book called “walking in your own shoes” by Robert A. Schuller; I have only just finished reading the dedication, forward, acknowledgments introduction and the first chapter of the book and I must say I think I am going to enjoy this book.

After reading the first chapter I felt the need to do this post, now the thing is that I haven’t gotten to that point where I can fully discern when it is that I am hearing from God or when it is Random thoughts popping into my head, nevertheless I will get there eventually where I am able to tell the difference.

I started house sitting last from last night, I quite enjoy it because I get away for a couple of weeks from my everyday life, those mundane routines and tasks that need to get done every day. Sometime throughout the course of the day yesterday I made the conscious decision that while I was in this house looking after it for the owners I would not switch on the TV, that I would take this time alone to delve a little further into the word of God and to try and strengthen my relationship with him some more, then when I got here I did what I normally do when I get home, kicked off my shoes put the kettle on for coffee, tea or whatever it is at that point that tickles my fancy… then to pick up the TV remote switch it on watch my favourite soapie “7 de Laan” for those of you who do not reside in south Africa 7 de Laan is one of our local TV shows. Anyway last night when I went for the remote I suddenly got this thought in my head, it was quite funny actually it was like someone was telling me “no no no put that remote down … remember the promise you made… step away from the remote”.  Well I put the remote down and drank my coffee then decided to pick the remote up again and switch on the TV but then again as I picked it up… that same thought popped into my head again, so I decided to switch my laptop on, I started off my reading a few of the blogs I follow, but then I felt the need to do the post before this one.

Let me just tell you one thing, I have never been so honest about anything in my entire life, not even to myself, it took a lot out of me, I felt emotionally spent after writing that post. But glad I did. I felt a sense of release.

So this evening as I sit here and write the post I have a small prayer request, I want to walk in my shoes not someone else’s but mine. So let me tell you a bit about my current situation.  Hopefully God will either give me some sort of confirmation or he will give someone reading this post something, some word or scripture or message or something.

I currently work for a company and have been with them for almost a year and a half now, I don’t earn a big salary in fact for the past couple of months things have been really tight, and while the company itself is not the greatest company to work for or the Job I have is not FANTASTIC, some of the people there are amazing people, so let me tell you a bit about them, to my left at the door, is one of the newbie’s… well not necessarily new but he has been there the least amount of time, he also happens to be the youngest, he is the funny one, the one that puts a smile on our faces on a daily basis, when he is stressed out or busy he has his earphones in his ears and listens to music, and says ok time to “Zone” , then at the desk next to me on my left is the “queen in our department” yes I mean the gay one… sometimes he can make you laugh with his antics but sometimes he can also make you angry, he flirts with all the guys and honestly half of them flirt back, but we all know that they are joking and there is no truth to the flirting so to speak, then there is the lady that sits opposite him, she happens to be my bosses sister, while at the best of times we do not get along there are other times where we can have a good conversation, then there is my Boss, in the beginning we got on like a house on fire, but then realised what you see is not what you get, so I distanced myself a bit and stuck to just doing my work, since then I have decided to put all that aside and change the way I thought of her, and we actually get on very well, then there is her Boss who happens to be one of the head honchos so to speak, you would think that all the money he has that it would go to his head but it hasn’t, and I have the utmost respect for him, he truly is one of the coolest bosses I know.

Then as they say save the best for last… J, then there is the man that sits opposite me, I have so much respect for him, he like me has given his life to the Lord, he is a great example and a really good hearted person. He was a key player in me giving my life back to Jesus, he has helped me by speaking of his past experiences, giving me books to read and DVD’s to watch, given me scriptures to read, heck he even bought me a bible, more than anything he has just been someone I could speak to, not everyone understands what it’s like to be a Christian, and it was nice being able to speak with someone who has similar beliefs about Christianity as me. The Lord has amazing things in store for him I just know it, and I don’t consider him a co-worker but instead a friend.

So there you have it, those are my co-workers, while there are many more these guys are the ones I call my work family, we truly are that, when one of us is down the others will all go out of their way to make them feel better, in their own little way they all add value to our little family, the one that makes us laugh, the one that always has medicine for the sick ones J, pain pills he has, flu meds he has, nausea meds he has, not because he is addicted to it but because he likes to be prepared, and let me tell you those meds have come in handy many times.  These people are the reason I am still there, the reason why I have not left this company to find a better paying job.

Then I also have my own business, it is a bridal business which I started almost 2 years ago, it does not make that much money, in fact I have not had an order in a couple of months, but I have had a few good orders, but the business never really took off, even though I spent thousands on this business. I was passionate about it and thought that’s what I was meant to do.

So here is my prayer request, I have a Job that is not great and doesn’t pay well but I have a family there that I have not found at any other company, then there is my business, while I worked hard at it and thought that it was truly what I was meant to be doing, and had every intention of resigning once my business has taken off, I find myself now at a crossroads, you see the more I immerse myself in the word of God the more I strive to be obedient to God the more detached I feel from my business, and feel that I need to close shop so to speak, I need to know what is the right thing in these two areas of my life, do I look for a better paying Job and leave the one I currently have, or do I stay, and do I close my business once and for all or do I continue to work on it and make it work.

I am praying about this but if anyone reading this would like to add to my prayers please feel free to do so, if you have any advice or word from the Lord please share it with me as I am still battling to discern what is from God and what not.

Hope you All have a blessed weekend.

Faith VS Self- Help


I heard someone say this over the weekend and it is so VERY TRUE – “The problem with self-help is that you are trying to get help from someone that DESPERATELY NEEDS HELP.This is so true, think about it it’s like getting an alcoholic to help someone to stop drinking, or a drug addict to help someone to get off drugs, what good is that going to do… how can you stop drinking or taking drugs if the person trying to help you is drinking or taking drugs.

 

Now I have tried the self-help books, I will give you an example of 2 books

 

The Art of happiness by the Dalai Lama and the Secret…  While the art of happiness helped me with one thing, it helped for a short while but not for long, it helped me with my road rage, there was a piece in the book where he mentions how you react to people on the road, if someone crosses lanes in front of you, do you get angry because the cut in front of you or do you stop to think that maybe just maybe that this is a person who has no idea where they going it’s a new area and they suddenly realise that this is the road they need to turn into, or another example do you maybe see it as an arrogant driver or someone that if they do not get to work on time they will be fired. Then there was the secret, the one thing that I took out of that was the whole visualisation thing, I did the whole thing I did the wish board or visualisation board or whatever it is. I did it, I put pictures of things I wanted all over the house, I will give you an example of one thing I really wanted, was an AUDI A3… I wanted one of those SOOOOOO badly, I had a friend who had one and every time he and I would go out I would insist on driving. So I decided to follow the secret… I put pictures up all over my house of a WHITE AUDI A3, I pictured myself getting into the car I went to dealerships and took it for a test drive the whole toot… so did I get the WHITE AUDI A3… no I didn’t,  I ended up with a black Hyundai i10, for those of you that know it is a really small car, but you know what I LOVE my little car. It gets me to where I want to go and I can’t imagine not having it.

 

Now here is the thing about faith there are so many things I believe God for and that I have asked for and gotten, almost 2 years ago I was retrenched from work, was given 1 months’ notice, I prayed and asked that God please help me I knew what it felt like to be unemployed for almost 1 year, for not knowing what food we would eat tonight because we just did not have any so this time I prayed, it was about 2 weeks after I got the news that I got a call from my current employer, I went for the interview the Wednesday, the Friday they called to tell me I had the Job, and I started working the following Tuesday.  I was so amazed that it’s true that this whole “faith thing” that all these people spoke about actually worked.

 

More recently where god has come through for me, was a couple of months ago my brother drove down to Cape Town for work, while a trip with frequent stopping would take +- 18 hours it took my brother 48 hours to get to cape town, he had problems with his car on the way down. 24 of the 48 hours we had no clue where he was if he was safe or anything.  So we started calling hospitals, police stations the whole lot, I was at breaking point and in tears and prayed and asked the Lord to keep my brother safe, and that he please just give me some indication that he is safe, it was not even 5 minutes later and my brother had called to say that he had no way of contacting us as his battery was flat, he was there and safe.

 

Then there is my bible, the bible I had was very old and falling apart, so I prayed and asked God for a new one, at the time I did not have the money but figured that when I got paid if I didn’t already have a new one then I would go and buy it, well the Very day that I had planned to go and buy myself a new one a colleague and someone I consider more of a friend than a colleague gave me one as a gift, I was floored, was not expecting it at all. So I can safely say that FAITH WORKS and self-help DOESN’T.

 

I have been so blessed, the past few weeks, and it’s an amazing feeling. So just practice a little Faith in the ALMIGHTY, and things will happen in a BIG way.  Now that I think of it after a while I gave up on the whole “The secret” thing because clearly it didn’t work, so I stopped visualising the WHITE AUDI A3, ha ha, so me speaking on the topic of Faith VS self Help, I am going to pray for my WHITE AUDI A3, and I am going to have faith that I get it, however long it takes I don’t mind, but I’ll have faith for it anyway.  I’ll be sure to keep you all posted on when I get it.

 

My favourite scripture on Faith is the following:

 

Heb11:1 – Now Faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do not see.

PUSH people PUSH!!!!


I am sure we all know what the Acronym P.U.S.H means, PRAY UNTIL SOMETHING HAPPENS.

We all Pray when we want something in our lives, in fact you are probably trusting God for something right now. I know I am, I am trusting for a couple of things, and the thing is you can’t just trust him, for it. You need to pray for it and ask him for it. My opinion is you only need to ask once, every other time you need to thank him for it.

A lot of people Pray for something and then go on with their lives and days, weeks maybe even months later they say their prayers were never answered, well let’s look a little deeper into that,  does the bible refer to you and me doing the WILL of God, or does it refer to God doing our will?

Continue to work out your salvation with fear and trembling, for it is God who works in you to will and to act according to his good purpose. (Philippians 2:12-13)

May the God of peace … equip you with everything good for doing his will, and may he work in us what is pleasing to him, through Jesus Christ, to whom be glory for ever and ever. Amen. (Hebrews 13:20-21)

Submit yourselves, then, to God. (James 4:7)

There are many more scriptures that refer to the will of God, don’t you think that instead of saying “God, I asked you for a new job, but look it has been 3 months and I am still here why have you not heard me?… How about you say Thank you God for WHATEVER it is that you have Planned for me SO BE IT, whether it be a new Job or not. Thank you God that I have been put on this earth to SERVE YOU, and to do YOUR will.  Thank you God for the New Job, when you ready I will be waiting.

Why have you been put in certain situations in your life? God has put you there for a specific reason; there is something he needs you to do. So don’t you think he will keep you there until that task is complete?  What about looking at it this way… how about asking the following “God, why have you placed me here? What is it you need me to do here? Reveal your plan to me and I will be obedient and do whatever it is that you require of me.

Then there is this little thing called FAITH

 

Hebrews 11:1 says: Now faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do not see.

 

So ask for that new Job, or the new car or whatever it is that you are trusting God for. And  Have FAITH, that you will get what you asked, ONLY when the time is right. Have faith not only in God but also in his timing.

 

So to close

 

  1.  Pray Until Something Happens (1 Thessalonians 5:17 – Pray WITHOUT ceasing)
  2. You only need to ask him ONCE ( I am almost certain he is NOT DEAF)
  3. Have faith that he will DELIVER
  4. Most importantly keep thanking him as if you have already RECEIVED IT.