Up until a few hours ago, I had no clue what I would write about today, but God has a way of revealing to you exactly what is needed and when, I have decided that every thought that makes me feel at peace and good is from God, so I will obey him and write this post.
Today I will write about Christians dealing with conflict and my friend and colleague, for the sake of anonymity I will call him Frikkie (A little humour for you my friendJ)
I have mentioned Frikkie in a few blog posts; he was one of the people that have been instrumental in me giving my life back to the Lord.
Before I go any further I would like to provide you with some scriptures so that you can have a better understanding of this post.
Matthew 18:15 – “If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault, between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained your brother.
Colossians 3:13 – Bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive.
My friend is dealing with conflict in the work place, he is victimised by one person and unfortunately this person is in a higher management position, had I been in his shoes, I do not think that I would have been as calm and collected as he is. I take my hat off to him and I would often wonder how he actually manages to stay so calm. You see Frikkie is a born again Christian and he has Jesus on his side.
I look at him and have the utmost respect for him, as he is a true example of what it really is to be a Christian and to be more Christ like in his everyday life.
I felt the need to pray for him last night, and at that time I was not sure what for, I thought perhaps it was for his safety but it wasn’t. I sat here and thought to myself, about the way he is being treated, if you knew him as a person you would agree with me that how he has been treated is WRONG. Plain and simple, he goes out of his way to help others, he never has a bad word to say about anyone, he does not swear, does not speak to people disrespectfully even though this is how he is treated on a daily basis. He has respect for anyone and everyone that crosses his path, and makes people feel good. Everyone in our office considers him to be one of the friendliest people around, and yet there is that one person that does everything to make his life a living hell, now that is where a light suddenly came on in my head, or should I rather say at that time God revealed something to me.
He reminded me of something I said on one of my previous posts, that being a Christian is NOT easy, in fact it is a very tough road to travel, because once you surrender to Jesus, satan will do EVERYTHING he can to make you stumble and fall, in your walk with Jesus. So in this case where my friend is concerned Satan is using this one person to attack him, so it’s not the actual person, the driving force here is satan, once we are able to realise that the battle if halfway won, because then we can call in the BIG SHOT, the one who is more powerful than satan can EVER dream of being, we need to let God take the wheel in our fight with satan, once we allow him to direct our next step there is no way that satan will have victory.
Being a Christian is a true test of one’s faith in Jesus, because it is when you become a Christian that the battle begins. This is where the most important decision lies in our lives. Who do we trust and rely on?
I am still busy reading the book walking in your own shoes by Robert H. Schuller, and I am currently on the last chapter but last night he made a very good analogy on faith and trusting the Lord in times of need.
He used a blind girl as an example; she is standing on a windowsill of a top floor of a burning building, she cannot see a thing, she hears the fire fighters telling to her that she can jump there is a net that will catch her, and yet she does not jump, she is paralyzed with fear at the thought of Jumping because she cannot see the net. She struggles to trust the fire fighters enough to save her life, but then suddenly her father speaks to her and tells her to Jump that he is there and everything will be ok. Then suddenly her whole perspective changes and she jumps, although she cannot see the net, why did she jump? … Because she had faith in her father and trusted him enough to believe him when he said everything will be ok.
Now we can relate to that blind girl as us not being sure of the safety net of Jesus, but then he speaks to us through his word and says trust me it will be ok you will be safe.
I will go back to my point, that when you become a Christian, you begin a battle, a battle with satan, we are blind, there is a safety net called Jesus, and he is telling us that it is ok to Jump he is there.
1 Samuel 17:47 – Then all this assembly shall know that the Lord does not save with sword and spear; for the battle is the Lord’s, and He will give you into our hands.
2 Timothy 2:1-4 – You therefore, my son, be strong in the grace that is in Christ Jesus. And the things that you have heard from me among many witnesses, commit these to faithful men who will be able to teach others also. You therefore must endure hardship as a good soldier of Jesus Christ. No one engaged in warfare entangles himself with the affairs of this life, that he may please him who enlisted him as a soldier.
2 Corinthians 10:3-5 – For though we walk in the flesh, we do not war according to the flesh For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal but mighty in God for pulling down strongholds, casting down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ.
Ephesians 6:10-20 – Finally, my brethren, be strong in the Lord and in the power of His might. Put on the whole armour of God that you may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil. For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this age, against spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places. Therefore take up the whole armour of God, that you may be able to withstand pin the evil day, and having done all, to stand. Stand therefore, having girded your waist with truth, having put on the breastplate of righteousness, and having shod your feet with the preparation of the gospel of peace; above all, taking the shield of faith with which you will be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked one. And take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God; praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, being watchful to this end with all perseverance and supplication for all the saints and for me, that utterance may be given to me, that I may open my mouth boldly to make known the mystery of the gospel, for which I am an ambassador in chains; that in it I may speak boldly, as I ought to.
I thank the lord for giving me the insight to do this post today and I dedicate this post and every other post to my Almighty God, in him I have found my strength to go into battle for him.
I also want to dedicate this to my friend, you are stronger than what you think, you are a mighty warrior for Jesus, and I have the utmost respect for you in the way you have handled this situation, this world needs more people like you in it. I pray that this battle you are now fighting will be one that will make you stronger and more determined to fight for what is right. I know God will be with you every step of the way; he will carry you and give you the tools you need to overcome this obstacle. I will keep you in my prayers and thoughts. May God Bless you abundantly, in your Journey with him.
For anyone reading this all I ask of you is that you please lift my friend up in prayer. He has some very difficult choices to make and he might not see what’s on the other side of the mountain but with prayer and faith he will know what the right move will be as God will reveal it to him.
May you all have a blessed day.
I have had to bite my tongue, over and over again, wanting nothing more than to speak my mind when all I can do is keep quite, as the concequences I would have to face speaking my mind would be far worse than if i just keep quiet.
I have to be honest and say I struggle with conflict, not that I cannot handle it but when I feel threatened my first and probably only instinct is to FIGHT back. To give as much as I get.
My tolerance level for stupidity is also extremely low, ESPECIALLY when it comes from someone in the workplace who is by far your senior when it comes to positions within the company.
So this whole episode made me think of a Christian son I heard long ago I cant remember the band or all the lyrics the piece that stood out for me was the following
” Too late, said another thing that I know would have hurt you Lord wanna bite my tongue”
“Sometimes my mouth is like this mercenary shooting off these words like a hired gun”
Those words were all i could think about today when I so desperately wanted to smack someone. Oh and believe me given half the chance i probably would have, I never used to have ANY issue whatsoever punching someone in the face that sorry to say “P!SSES ME OFF”, yes yes I KNOW not very lady like of me.
So I got to thinking, surely there must be scriptures about this about dealing with anger and honestly what would JESUS do??
So this is what I found, I am sitting at work so have googled these scriptures:
- Cease from anger, and forsake wrath; Do not fret—it only causes harm (Psalms 37:8).
- A quick-tempered man acts foolishly, and a man of wicked intentions is hated (Proverbs 14:17).
- He who is slow to wrath has great understanding, but he who is impulsive exalts folly (Proverbs 14:29).
- A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger (Proverbs 15:1).
- He who is slow to anger is better than the mighty, and he who rules his spirit than he who takes a city (Proverbs 16:32).
- The discretion of a man makes him slow to anger, and his glory is to overlook a transgression (Proverbs 19:11).
- Make no friendship with an angry man, and with a furious man do not go,
Lest you learn his ways and set a snare for your soul (Proverbs 22:24-25).
- But I say to you that whoever is angry with his brother without a cause shall be in danger of the judgment. And whoever says to his brother, ‘Raca!’ shall be in danger of the council. But whoever says, ‘You fool!’ shall be in danger of hell fire (Matthew 5:22).
- “Be angry, and do not sin”: do not let the sun go down on your wrath, nor give place to the devil (Ephesians 4:26-27).
So I have now realised that if I want to strive to be the person the LORD wants me to be I need to control my temper but more so my thoughts of ANGER, it is what pulls me down and makes me forget my my pact with the Lord.
So I will now try to count to 10 and bite my toungue, and soon it will become part of me and days like this will seem like a walk in the park, God Bless everyone.