I must admit the past few days I have struggled with words; I was actually so worried that I had run out of topics to blog about. Anyway today at work something happened that got me thinking, about marriage and settling down etc. Just hear me out I have not decided that I want to get married or anything like that it was just today’s occurrences that got me thinking.
We have a lady at work who has not been working there for a very long time however she has that type of personality that everyone gets along with her, she came to speak to myself and a colleague today, now I have NO idea how we got onto this topic but she had asked my colleague if he was single, he confirmed that he had been single for almost a year, so she said he needs to get out more and meet people etc. You know the usual that people say when they come across a “single” person like as if it is a terrible thing to be single. Then she went on to saying that she will find him someone …LOL, he then told her that he does get out and meet people (women) through friends etc but they are not his type meaning they are not right for him, maybe they drink too much and he hardly drinks etc. Once again she said she would find him someone.
Then she asked me, and I said the same thing and she basically told me the same thing that she will try and find me someone with the same interests as me.
Now at this point I was intrigued by this whole topic so brought up the question why is it she thinks she needs to help us find “Love” so to speak, we pretty capable of doing that ourselves too. The thing is when you are single people seem to make assumptions that either there is something wrong with you or perhaps you not working hard enough at finding someone… never once do they say oh ok you single because that’s what you want.
I have just turned 31, and I am single and quite frankly that does not bother me in the slightest, although I am being harassed by my family “when you getting married?” “When will you settle down?” You are not getting any younger you know! Etc. You see I dated a few guys and none of them were right, I have suffered rejection like most people have so I made the decision that I was no longer going to rush into something i.e. a relationship just for the sake of being in one. Let me try to put it more plainly, if you buy a bag of apples and the WHOLE bag except 1 apple is rotten, what are you going to do? Are you going to eat all those rotten apples and then eat the apple that’s the best… or will you just eat the good apple, think about it I know that is a bit of a silly comparison but it’s true, I am not going to go through all the bad apples first and THEN eat the good one, just the same as I am not going to go into a relationship if I do not feel that its right.
I firmly believe that God has big plans for me for all of us, and when the time is right, it will be according to his plan for my life whether that is now, a year from now, or 10 years from now it does not matter, and people need to accept that, not all of us are dependent on having a significant other. Oh and I have seen that before where people are so dependant of another person that they are too scared to end abusive relationships because they are TOO afraid of being alone… but in reality being alone is not the problem.
The problem is who you are depending on, don’t depend on other people depend on God, and allow Him to fulfil His plan for your life only then will you KNOW when something is right. The way I see it is God did not create for us each 20 soul mates we each have 1 and why should I continue to waste my time on something that is going nowhere?
Genesis 2:24 – For this reason a man will leave his mother and father and be united to his wife, and they will become 1 flesh.
So there you have it it’s obvious, it does not say that 10 men will leave their parents to marry the same wife, or vice versa it says A MAN (meaning 1 man) will leave his mother and father and be united with his wife.
Matthew 19:6 – So they are no longer two, but one, therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.
Here it says they are no longer 2 but 1 not 5 but 1. So I no longer will waste my time being in a relationship “just because” that is what is acceptable in society or because that is what people want from me, it’s not what other people want that matters to me it’s WHAT GOD wants that matters.
Yes everyone likes having that other person around, to share things with, someone that is not family but also not just a friend, I will be the first to admit that it IS nice having someone around, but when you sit and think about it, does that relationship have any MEANING at all when it is not what God wants, is it still so nice when at the end of the day you are headed for a dead end street, no its not because someone always gets hurt.
Spending your life with someone is a HUGE commitment, not one to be taken lightly either. A friend wrote a blog some time ago about marriage and that if you get married you need to be a warrior as it is a commitment that is made between 2 people and you can’t just up and leave when things get tough which is what so many married and unmarried couples do today, that is why it is SO important that you make the right choices in life, here is a link to his post go and take a read.
Lions Lead – “For Better or Worse… Really? Hope you all enjoyed this post as much as I have.
The past few days this thought has been playing on my mind, baptism and the meaning there of, what to expect etc. Now being born into the catholic religion I was baptised as a baby, but growing up we never practiced the catholic ways so to speak, I was baptised again at the age of 17, that was a choice I made at that stage in my life and at the church I was at. I realise now that, back then when I made the decision to get baptized I did it “just because” the option was there and I decided to do it.
Now for a few weeks now I have wanted to get baptised, I always thought that you could only get baptised once in your life, the reason for this is that when I made the choice to be baptised my family had asked me why I wanted to do it as I was baptised when I was a baby so what is the point of doing it again?
I asked my friend what he thought on this topic and whether it was ok to get baptised more than once, his answer was YES, it is ok to be baptised more than once.
I then did some research and found the following scripture:
Ephesians 4:4-5 – There is one body, and one Spirit, even as you are called in one hope of your calling; One Lord, one faith, one baptism, One God and Father of all, who is above all, and through all, and in you all.
When I read this my first thought was that what I had been told was right that we can only be baptised once in our life according to the bible. I then sent this scripture to my friend and asked him to interpret it and tell me how he understood the scripture
He told me this:
It does not say that you can only be baptised once, the scripture states that there is ONE BAPTISM, meaning that there is only ONE METHOD of baptism.
This then cleared up any confusion about the scripture that I had although I still wanted some sort of confirmation, I then found another website regarding the EXACT SAME Scripture and this is exactly what this piece says.
“The Bible emphatically states that there is “One Master – One Faith – ONE “BAPTISM” (Ephesians 4:5). This should leave no doubts that the believer has but ONE WAY that Baptism can be administered. Only this ONE Baptism could be truly acceptable to the Most High. All other ways are merely traditions of man and Messiah Himself said that such were ‘in vain.’ Baptism based on tradition and not on the Bible, is therefore administered -‘In vain’.
This for me was all the confirmation I had needed about the scripture in question.
My next point I want to make is exactly how you get baptised, when I was baptised as a baby I had water sprinkled on my forehead, however when I was baptised at the age of 17 I was fully submerged into the water,
I looked up the meaning of baptism and this is what I found: a primary verb; to whelm, i.e. cover wholly with a fluid
Let’s look at the Bible and what is said about baptism and the way it needs to be performed,
Matthew 28:19-20 –“ Go therefore and make disciples of all the nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, teaching them to observe all things that I have commanded you; and lo, I am with you always even to the end of the age.”
Mark 16:15-16 – .And He said to them, “Go into all the world and preach the gospel to every creature. He who believes and is baptized will be saved; but he who does not believe will be condemned.”
Acts 8:36-38 – Now as they went down the road, they came to some water. And the eunuch said, “See, here is water. What hinders me from being baptized?” Then Philip said, “If you believe with all your heart, you may.” And he answered and said, “I believe that Jesus Christ is the Son of God.” So he commanded the chariot to stand still. And both Philip and the eunuch went down into the water, and he baptized him.”
So the first 2 verses I made reference to both say baptize and as I stated above the meaning of the word baptism means to cover wholly(entirely) with a fluid.
Then the last verse says that they WENT DOWN into the water, it doesn’t say that they went to a puddle.
So it is my understanding that the correct method is to be IMMERSED in the water.
While I still know very little about baptism now as I write this post I am doing research as I go along. So if anything I say is not correct please do correct me. You see I so desperately want to be baptised again I just feel that at the stage in my life that I am now, the time is right unlike the last time.
Acts 2:37-41 “Now when they heard this they were cut to the heart, and said to Peter and the rest of the apostles, ‘Brethren, what shall we do?’ And Peter said to them, ‘Repent, and be baptised every one of you … for the forgiveness of your sins; and you shall receive the Gift of the Holy Spirit … So those who accepted His Word were baptised”.
Now this verse for me says so much, it tells me that when you are baptised your sins are forgiven, why then do certain religions perform baptism on infants? I completely disagree with that as an infant cannot understand and does not know sin so therefore there is nothing to forgive. It also says that when being baptised you receive the gift of the Holy Spirit. This confuses me somewhat; I have yet to fully understand the Magnitude of this gift and exactly WHAT it is. If anyone has a deeper understanding of this please leave a comment below. What is THE GIFT of the Holy Spirit, is it being able to speak in tongues, is it being able to understand it or is it many different things and each person receives a different gift.
I have made the decision to be baptised again, however this time around I need to be sure that the time is right and that I am doing it for the right reasons.
If anyone can shed some more light on the topic please feel free to do so. I have MINIMAL knowledge on this topic so I would really appreciate some feedback, I do not want to go into this and get baptised again and not know FULLY what to expect.